One of the things we can take away from this list below is none of them have to be permanent sex drive killers. There are options and resources to keep your sex lives healthy and thriving.
Sex-Drive Killer: StressSome people do many things well when they're stressed. Feeling sexy usually isn't one of them. Stress at work, home, or in relationships can happen to anyone. Learning how to handle it in a healthy way really helps. You can do a lot of it yourself, and a counselor or doctor can also help.
Sex-Drive Killer: Partner ProblemsProblems with your partner are among the top sex-drive killers. For women, feeling close is a major part of desire. For both sexes, watch for fallout from fights, poor communication, feeling betrayed, or other trust issues. If it's tricky to get back on track, reach out to a couples counselor.
Sex-Drive Killer: AlcoholA drink may make you feel more open to sex. But too much alcohol can numb your sex drive. Being drunk can also be a turn-off for your partner. If you have trouble drinking less, seek help.
Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little SleepIf your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you're not getting enough sleep. Do you go to bed too late or rise too early? Do you have a sleep problem like trouble falling or staying asleep, or a condition such as sleep apnea? Anything that messes with a good night's rest can mess with sex. Fatigue saps sexy feelings. Work on your sleep habits, and if that doesn't help, talk to your doctor.
Sex-Drive Killer: Having KidsYou don't lose your sex drive once you're a parent. However, you do lose some time to be close with kids under foot. Hire a babysitter to nurture some time to be partners as well as parents. New baby? Try sex during baby's nap time.
Sex-Drive Killer: MedicationSome drugs can turn down desire. They include some of these types of medications:
- Blood pressure medications
- Birth control pills (some studies show a link; others don't)
- Anti-HIV drugs